The Forty Rules Of Love!!

Recently, i finished reading the book “The Forty Rules Of Love“; a novel of Rumi by Turkish author “Elif Shafak.” The Forty Rules Of Love is about the spiritual instructor of Mawlana Jalal ud-Din Rumi.
Reading the rules is not enough to understand the storyboard of the book, but it shall give you a good introduction and encourage you to grab your own copy.

“Live life as if everything is rigged in your favour.” -RUMI

1. “How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame welled inside us. If we see God as full of love and compassion, so are we.”

2. “The path of the truth is a labor of the heart, not of the head. Make your heart your primary guide, not your mind. Meet, challenge and ultimately prevail over your Nafs with your heart. Knowing yourself will lead you to the knowledge of God.”

3. “Each and every comprehends the Holy Qur’an on a different level in tandem with the depth of his understanding. There are four levels of insight. The first level is the outer meaning and it is the one that the majority of the people are content with. Next is the Batini- the inner level. Third, there is the inner of the inner. And the fourth level is so deep it cannot be put into words and is therefore bound to remain indescribablele.”

4. “You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe, because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly his abode is, there is only one place to look for Him; in the heart of a true lover. There is no one who has lived after seeing Him, just like there is no one who has died after seeing Him. Whoever finds Him all remain with Him forever.”

“As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” -RUMI

5. “Intellect and love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, ‘Beware too much ecstasy’, whereas love says, ‘Oh, never mind! Take the plunge! Intellect does not easily break down, whereas love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures.”

6. ” Most of problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstanding. Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language, as we know it becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.”

7. “Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But eventually it is best to find a person, the person who will be your mirror. Remember, only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the presence of God within you.”

8. “Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors reamain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be thankful when all is well. A sufi is thankful not only for what he has given but also for all that he has been denied.”

“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.” -RUMI

9. “Patience does not mean to passively endure.  It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process. What does patience mean?? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.”

10. “East, west, south or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every Journey a Journey with in. If you travel within, you’ll the whole wide world and beyond.”

11. “The midwife knows that when there is no pain, the way for the baby cannot be opened and mother cannot give birth. Likewise, for a new self to be born, hardship is necessary.”

12. “The quest for love changes us. There is seeker among those who search for love who has not matured on the way. The moment you start looking for love, you start to change within and without.”

“What hurts you, blesses you.” -RUMI

13. “There are more fake Guru’s and false teachers in this world than the number of stars in the visible univers. Don’t confuse Power-driven, self-spiritual master will not direct your attention to himself or herself and will not expect absolute obedience or utter admiration from you, but instead will help you to appriciate and admire your inner self. True mentors as a transparents as glass. They let the light of God pass through them.”

14. “Try not to resists the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come??”

15. “God is busy with the completion of your work, both outwardly and inwardly. He is fully occupiedwith you. Every human being is a work in progress that is slowly but enexorably moving toward perfection. We are each and unfinished work of art both waiting and strivingto be completed. God deals with each of us separately because humanity is a fine art of skilled penmanship where every single dot is equally important for the entire picture.”

16. “It’s easy to have a perfect God, unblemished and infallible that He is. What is far more difficult  is to love fellow human beings with all their imperfections and defects. Remember, one can only know what one is capable of loving. There is no wisdom without love. Unless we learn to lve God’s creation, we can neither truly love nor truly know God.”

“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are an entire ocean in a drop.” -RUMI

17. “Real filth is the one inside. The rest simply washes off. There is only one type of dirt that cannot be cleansed with pure water, and that is the stain of hatred and bigotry contaminating the soul. You can purify your body through abstinence and fasting, but only love will purify your heart.”

18. “The whole universe is contained within a single human being-you. Everything that you see around, including the thing’s you might not be found of and even the people you despise or abhor, is present within you in varying degrees. Therefore, do not look for sheitan outside yourself either. The devil is not an extraordinary force that attacks from without. It is an ordinary voice within. If you get to know yourself fully, facing with honesty and hardness both your dark and bright sides, you will arrive at a supreme form of consciousness. When a person knows himself or herself, he or she knows God.”

19. “If you want to change the way others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you csn be loved. Once you achieve that stage, however, be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you. It is a sign that you will soon be showered in roses.”

20. “Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That’s the hardest pasrt and that’s what you are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Do not go with the flow. But the flow.”

“The cure for the pain is in the pain.” -RUMI

21. “We were all created in His image, and yet we were created different and unique. No two people are alike. No two hearts beat to the same rhythm. If God had wanted everyone to be the same, He would have made it so. Therefore, disrespecting differences and imposing your thoughts on others is tantamount to disrespecting God’s holy scheme.”

22. “When a true lover of God goes into a tavern, the tavern becomes his chamber of prayer, but when a wine bibber goes into the same chamber, it becomes his tavern. In everything we do, it is our hearts that make the difference, not our outer appearances. Sufis do not judge other people on how they look or who they are. When a sufi stares at someone, he keeps both eyes closed and instead opens a thirdeye-the eye that sees the inner realm.”

23. “Life is a temporary loan, and this world ia nothing but a sketchy imitation of reality. Only children would mistake a toy for the real thing. And yet human beings either become infatuated with the toy and disrespectfully break it and thrown it aside. In this life stay away from all kinds of extremities, for they will destroy your inner balance. “Sufis do not go to extremes. A sufi always remains mild and moderate.””

24. “The human beings has a unique place among God’s creation. “I breathed into him of My spirit,” God says. Each and every one of us without exception is designed to God’s delegate on earth. Ask yourself, Just how often do you behave like a delegate, If you ever do so? Remember, it falls upon each of us to discover the divine spirit inside and live by it.”

“Response to every call that excites your spirit.” -RUMI

25. “Hell is in the here and now. So is heaven. Quite worrying about hell or dreaming about heaven, as thetly are both present inside this very moment. Every time we fall in love, we ascend to heaven. Every time we hate envy or fight someone, we tumble straight into the fires of hell.”

26. “The universe is one being. Everything and everyone is interconnected through and indivisible web of stories. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are all in a silent conversation. Do not harm practice compassion. And do not gossip behind anyone’s back-not even a seemingly innocent remark! The words that come out from our mouths do not vanish but are perpetually stored in infinite space, and they will come back to us all. One man’s joy will make everyone smile”

27. “This world is like a snowy mountain that echoes your voice. Whatever you speak, good or evil, will somehow come back to you. Therefore, if there is someone who harbours ill thoughts about you, saying similarly and things about him will only make matters worse. You will be locked in a vicious circle of malevolent energy. Instead for forty days and nights say and think nice things about that person. Everything will be different at the end of forty days, because will be different insides.”

28. “The past is an interpretation. The future is an illusion. The world does not movre through time as if it were a straight line, proceeding from the past to the future. Instead time moves through and within us, in endless spirals. Eternity does not mean infinite time, but simply timelessness. If you want to experience eternal illumination, put the past a d the future out of your mind and remain within the present moment.”

“Each moment contains a hundred messages from God.” -RUMI

29. “Destiny doesn’t mean that your life has been strictly predetermined. Therefore, to leave everything to fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance. “The music of the universe is all-pervading and it is composed on forty different levels. Your destiny is the level where you will play your tune. You might not change your instrument but how well to play is entirely in your hands.”

30. “The true sufi is such that even when he is unjustly accused, attacked, and condemned from all sides, he potentially endures, uttering not a single word about any of this critics. A sufi never apportions blame. How can there be opponents or rivals or even “others” when there is no “self” in the 1st place? How can tehre be anyone to blame when there is only one?”

31. “If you want to strengthen your faith, you will need to soften inside. For your faith to be rock solid, your heart needs to be as soft as a feather. Through an illness, accident, loss or fright, one way or another, we all are faced with incidents that teach us how to become less selfish and judgment, and more compassionate and generous. Yet some of us learn the lesson and manage to become milder, while some others end up becoming even harsher than before. The only way to get closer to truth is to expand your heart so that it will encompass all humanity and still have room for more love.”

32. “Nothing should stand between yourself and God. Not imams, priests, rabbis, or any other custodians of moral or religious leadership. Not spiritual master, mot even your faith. Believe in your values and your rules, but never lord them over others. If you keep breaking other people’s hearts, whatever religious duty you perform is no good…..! Stay away from all sorts of idolatry, for they will blure your vision. Let God and only God be your guide. Learn the truth, my friend, but be careful not to make a fetish out of your truths.”

“I searched for God and found only myself. I searched for myself and found only God.” -RUMI

33. “While everyone in this world strives to get somewhere and become someone, only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the supreme stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot. It is not the declarations outside but the emptiness inside that holds us straight. Just like that, it is not what we aspire to achieve but the consciousness of nothingness that keeps us going.”

34. “Submission does not mean being weak or passive. It leads to neither fatalism not capitulation. Just the opposite. True power resides in submission— a power that comes from within. Those who submit to divine essence of life will live in unperturbed tranquillity and peace even when the whole wide world goes through turbulence after turbulence.”

35. “In this world, it is not similarities or regularities that take us a step forward, but blunt opposites. And all the opposites in the universe are parent within each and every one of us. Therefore the believer needs to meet the unbeliever residing within. And the nonbeliever should get to know the silent faithful in him. Until the day on reaches the stage of Insan-i-kâmil, the perfect human being, faith is a gradual process and one that necessitates its seeming opposite: disbelief.”

36. “This world is erected upin the principal of reciprocity. Neither a drop of kindness nor a speck of evil will remain Unreciprocated. Fear not the plots, decepticons,  or tricks of other people. If somebody is setting a trap, remember, so is God. He is the biggest plotter. Not even a leaf stirs outside God’s knowledge. Simply and fully believe in that. Whatever God does, He does beautifully.”

“Love is the bridge between you and everything.” -RUMI

37. “God is a meticulous clockmaker. So precise is His order that everything on earth happens in its own time. Neither a minute late nor a minute early. And for everyone without exception, the clock works accurately. For each there is a time to love and a time to die.”

38. “It is never too late to ask yourself, ” Am I ready to change the life I am living? Am I ready to change within?”
Even if a single day in your life is the same as the day before, it surely is a pity. At every moment and  with each new breath, one should be renewed and renewed again. There is only one way to be born into a new life: to die before death.”

39. “While the parts change, the whole always remains the same. For every thief who departs this world, a new one is born. And every decent person who passes away is replaced by a new one. In this way not only does nothing remain the same but also nothing ever really changes. For every sufi who dies, another is born somewhere.”

40. “A life without love is of no account. Don’t ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western— Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple.
“Love is the water of life. And a lover is a soul of fire! The universe turns differents when fire loves water.”

“Love is the water of life.” -RUMI

Reference: The Forty Rules Of Love by Elif Shafak


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